My last blog was about empathy. Today I want to write about respect because according to Csikszentmihalyi, a key manifestation of empathy is respect. As a meaning respect is taking into consideration the views and desires of others. Therefore when you respect a person, you take into account that person's thoughts and wants into your planning. Actually respect is a very important element in communication because it enables for better communication and stronger relationships with other people and it is something that people appreciate when they receive it.
It should be careful about when need for respect is not met by other people. When we come across with this kind of situation, we need to express our feelings and needs to the other person and we should make a request from other person to find a different way of showing his or her respect. Therefore aim should not be whether we are respected or whether to respect others, the aim should be to continue conversation and give importance to what we want to meet our need for respect. To do this we should make request to other persons.
As we can see from the cartoon, respect for authority cannot be demanded by the person who is in the position of authority, it is just can be earned. On the other hand, empathy is an important element for gaining respect for authority. We should empathize with other person, when he or she says "no" to us because maybe they are in fact saying "yes" to something else at that time. Maybe they meet their other needs by saying us no. We should keep that in mind when somebody says "no" to us. Therefore if we want gain respect for our authority, we should empathize with people and think about what prevents them from doing what we have requested.
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